Thursday, August 28, 2008

Sitting in bed just watching my bug sleep!

I just got my bug to sleep and hes in his cradle...for now. Around 3am he tends to wake up and NOT want to go back in his cradle so I just put him in bed with us. This freaks Shane out but I dont really care I dont have deep sleeps anymore and Im very aware that hes in bed with us (on myside).
One question keeps popping in my head and I dont know the answer. Can a baby be too attached to his mom??
The type of parenting that just comes naturally to me is attached parenting so that is what I do, it just works for me but lately Ive noticed that sometimes the only thing that calms Bergen down is me. It could be me holding him, him laying on my chest, or me patting on his back and bum. Today when Shane had Bergen and he was crying Shane had Bergen on his chest and he was patting his bum however this didnt calm Bergen down, so after a little while I took him and did the same thing and he calmed right down. I felt bad but I cant help it, I spend all day with him and I am his mommy but is that normal?? Its not just his dad that hes like that with, on sunday he was the same way with his aunt (Shanes sister my family doesnt live in this province).
Ive been told that it could be just because Im to clingy with him, Im always holding him, if hes anywhere by himself and starts to get fussy or cry I pick him right up, but I do that because it comes naturally to me. Hes my son Im his mommy I dont want him to be upset and most of the time I know what he wants and how to calm him down.
He doesnt mind other people holding him but he will after a period of time cry like crazy, but Ive noticed that people dont like to hand him over if hes crying they just say hes colicy (and Im positive that he doesnt have colic) and my first instinct is to jump in and take him and calm him down, but doing this bothers other people because they want to hold him so I dont (I think Im going to change that tho)
I cant beleave how much my bug has grown in 7 weeks, I cant beleave that hes almost 2 MONTHS OLD!!! hes growing so fast!!! on tuesday I weighed him and hes 12lbs 10oz its CRAZY and hes so long, I have him in clothes for 3 month olds but only for the length hes as long as a 3 month old but they are too baggy on him, I cant wait to try and find clothes that fit him when hes older :( Hes also babbling like crazy and he LOVES to stand up, hes always watching and trying to figure things out, I bought a hotsling on wednesday and he loves it but only if he can sit in it so he can look out. I cant beleave how comfortable they are for me I thought that my shouldder would hurt but it doesnt. The position that the baby is in when they are sitting in it looks WAYYYYY too uncomfortable, his legs are folded and he looks like hes gonna suck on his toes, but I guess after being in the uterus for 9 months it doesnt bother them too much. Bergen loves it and Ive found a good sitting position for bug where he can see everything but his head is still supported and when he falls asleep I can tuck his head in farther. Its gonna be a godsend when we go shopping we wont have to take the car seat with us (he HATES the car seat and its SOOOOOOOOOO heavy now my bug is no lightweight). I LOVE THIS INVENTION!! I recomend one to all moms (and Im not the type that recomends things)

Bergens Birth Story

Thursday July 3rd, 8:00am on the dot I felt my first contraction I wasnt sure if it was the real thing or not so I just chilled out at home until about 1 AM. I couldnt tell what was going on so we thought a quick trip to the hospital and then they would send us back home telling me that it was just Braxton Hicks! Well they kept us over night to get checked out by the doctor the next day. I was released the next day to go home get active and see how things go so I went home took 2 Demorol and tried to nap and do things to get it all moving but then I noticed an Intense pain in my lower back and I mean this was intense it felt like someone was twisting and ripping my spin out also my contractions were getting much closer together they were lasting about a minute and were a minute to 2 minutes apart so we went back. On saturday (very very early morning)they tried to call Dr Miller but he didnt answer so he was a no show lol so I had Dr Davies and when he checked me out to see how dialated I was he noticed that I had "just a rim" left and that Bergen was in the posterior position which was causing me to have ALOT of back labour which was VERY intense the only thing that I was givin for the pain was laughing gas which when your having pain that bad in your back its a joke to even try it. Finally after hours of back labour bitchyness and just wanting something to make it feel better they decided to transfer me to the red deer hospital because the possibility of a c-section OR forceps was becomming a reality and they dont have the tools for it. At about 5ish I THINK (I wasnt watching the clock at this point i had other things on my mind) the ambulance FINALLY got there and I was loaded in. It was like as soon as I was put in the ambulance Bergen rolled over and the need to push became greater and greater the doctor told me that I shouldnt push and to just breathe through those urges (which is total BS good luck with that) I wasnt even incontrol at that point my body was pushing him out (it was a weird feeling its like I wasnt incontrol of what my body was doing) we got to the hospital in what felt like years and I was pushing in the elevator in the halls as I was about to walk over from the strecher to the bed it was intense BUT it felt sooooooooooooooooo much better then the back labour I was experiencing. I was worried that Shane wouldnt make it to the hospital before Bergen showed up BUT he did make it 3 hours after showing up in Red Deer ALOT of pushing, a second degree tear and no actual drugs MY BABY made his way into this world. There were some "problems" during the delivery and labour but they didnt cause any major issues. Like my tear and Bergen deciding to take a poop before he even made it into the world and parts of my placenta was calcified BUT things couldnt be better. My little boy is a champ for eating and my milk has come in. Apparently babys lose 10% of their birth weight like 3 days after birth but Bergen hasnt lost that much weight which seems to have surprised the peditrician. He didnt eat as frequently as the nurses wanted him to BUT when he did eat he ate for a while and he ate ALOT and still does. Bergen came out weighing 8 pounds 15 oz he was 21 inches in length and his head is 14 inches round. Hes a very chilled out baby and he LOVES to be held and cuddled so far every morning after he eats he just likes to cuddle with me for a few hours. And he doesnt cry alot just makes funny little squeeky noises. Its amazing Im the luckiest person ever we will see how things progress from here. There are other details that are a little fuzzy which I will add when I can remember them exactly.